Wednesday, September 02, 2009

What Is And What Is Not ...

How do we know what happens?

In the realm of "Everything happens for a reason" – or its fraternal twin "Everything happens exactly the way it's suppose to" – is there such a thing as free will? Are all outcomes predetermined? Do our choices simply dictate how many moves it will take to get us to the end of the game, not the end of the game itself?

Can we conjure people and things? If so, can we also unwittingly drive them away? And if they leave, was it really as a result of something we did or said or was it simply time? Had the relationship merely run its course?

We want answers. We want reasons.

But sometimes, explanations never come. Sometimes, life is a question mark. Sometimes, the only person who knows what happened is the person who isn't talking.

And there is nothing to be done but move on.

Some relationships are fleeting, some connections superficial, nothing, in the end, more than passers-by in a lifetime of interactions.

Some relationships, though, feel like fixtures, our connections so sure, so enmeshed, that we believe we surely could not bear their severance.

Yet we do.

Memories remain. Twinges of sadness. But many more moments of gratitude for having known them.

A focus not on the loss, but on the time together, on the gifts they both freely and unwittingly gave.

3 Comments:

Blogger Rick Hamrick said...

The truest words in this post are these:
"...there is nothing to be done but move on."

Even as we don't know—heck, we often don't know what has happened, much less what will—this game is all about continuing to put one foot in front of the other.

6:52 AM  
Blogger Mercurie said...

I am one of those people who honesty doesn't think everything happens with a reason. Why does someone who never smoked in their life get lung cancer when a three pack a day smoker dies of old age? I don't think there is a reason. I think when bad things happen the best we can do is as you say, focus not on the loss ubt on the time spent together.

11:15 AM  
Anonymous Mikeachim said...

We often can't do much about things happening.

But we have complete 100% control over the "reason" part - because reasons work retrospectively.

They're the plot, and you have to wait until the end of the story to find out what the plot is...and if you're living the story, you can rewrite it as you go.

Useful things, reasons.

7:21 AM  

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