Monday, June 02, 2008

Hey, Men: Why Are You Still Single? ...

An interesting story from Reuters today, in part below:

SYDNEY (Reuters Life!) - Bachelor Carl Weisman got fed up of being classified as a playboy, a loser or a commitment-phobe so he set out to find out exactly why he and a growing number of eligible men were steering clear of marriage.

Weisman, 49, conducted a survey of 1,533 heterosexual men to research a book aiming to give women an insight into why some smart, successful men opted to stay single -- and help lifelong bachelors understand why they are still the solo man at parties.

He concluded that most men were not afraid of marriage -- but they were afraid of a bad marriage.

"Men are 10 times more scared of marrying the wrong person than of never getting married at all," Weisman told Reuters in a telephone interview.

"This is the first generation of people who have grown up with bad divorces. People assume there is something wrong if you don't marry but these are men who have made a different choice and not given in to social pressures."

The release of his book "So Why Have You Never Been Married? - Ten Insights into Why He Hasn't Wed," comes amid a growing trend for more people to stay single, with less social or religious pressures on men -- and women -- to tie the knot.

Weisman said U.S. figures showed that in 1980 about 6 percent of men aged in their early 40s had never married but this number had now risen to 17 percent.

Weisman said his online survey found there are three groups of bachelors -- about 8 percent who never want to marry, 62 percent want to marry but of which half won't settle for anything less than perfection, and about 30 percent who are on the fence.

"... half won't settle for anything less than perfection"?


There are men out there not getting married because they're not meeting the perfect woman?

Am I allowed to presume that they are themselves perfect and therefore warrant the perfect mate?


Blogger Mercurie said...

Well, given my brother's ex-wife, it's hard for me to believe most guys are waiting for the perfect woman. I think the sad fact is that most women and men these days aren't what one would consider marriageable material. Sadly, that's a mark of just how dysfunctional our society has become...

9:32 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

Uh huh, yeah, that's it- 30% of men are absolutely perfect. Riiiiiiight.

I think some men have that 'grass is greener' attitude towards women. No matter how perfect a woman is for them, these men feel like there must be someone better and never commit because of it.

9:17 AM  
Anonymous Mikeachim said...

Hah. As a single man in his late 30s this topic has a certain appeal. :)

Yes, being single is less of a social stigma, and many people like the freedom and independence that this lifestyle entails. I think that's the overriding factor - without pressure to marry, people find they don't need to - even though some parts of the world are still subtly prejudiced against single people (hotel rooms the world over, for example).

In my case, it's definitely a lifestyle choice right now. I'm not looking, and I'm not putting the effort it. And that's because I'm probably too busy. If it happens, great - but right now I'm committed to other things....

4:03 AM  

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