The Controversy Train Keeps On Comin' ...
We've talked about healthcare, we've talked about the Black Spinster (we can't call her a Black Widow because she'd have to get married first), so tonight, let's tackle ... gay marriage!
My cyberpal Steff wrote a bang-up post about gay acceptance this evening, and as I was posting a comment, I realized that I was well on my way to writing a post of my own. And here we are.
My mother's pastor once tried to convince me that gays were probably the victims of abuse in their youths and could be "cured" with counseling. Oh, how he tried. I finally just said, "Look, you're not going to win this one. I will never believe that all of my gay friends are 'choosing evil.' " Jesus. So to speak.
To believe that gays should have the right to marry, you have to believe that they're born, not made. They don't choose to be gay. They're just gay. Just like I was born female and white. I could have been born gay. I wasn't. Though I often think it might be time to play for that team, cuz this heterosexual lifestyle ain't gettin' me anywhere. I know lots of fabulous women. If we were all gay, oh the partners we'd have to choose from!
But seriously, the argument against gay marriage seems to be that allowing gays to marry will erode the sanctity of marriage.
The sanctity of marriage? Puh-leeze. My friends John and Dick, who have been together for, what?, 20 years, aren't allowed to get married because it might ruin the "sanctity of marriage" but Britney Spears can get married for 55 hours and say, "It was just a joke, y'all!" and that doesn't ruin the sanctity of marriage?
No one has been able to tell me how my gay friends having the right to get married in any way lessens the significance of marriage if I someday get married.
I wrote a
You can't use procreation as the justification of marriage. What about couples who are infertile or those who simply choose not to have children? Should we revoke their marriage licenses?
A couple weeks ago in Chicago, a baby was discovered in a garbage bag in a closet. Despite being allowed to drop off babies at fire stations or emergency rooms, some still discard infants like so much garbage.
Around the world and close to home, there are millions of children who need to be adopted. But don't let gay couples adopt! Oh no! Gay people can't provide loving, stable homes, right?
Maybe you think, "Gay people just make me uneasy and if they're allowed to marry each other, maybe one of them will hit on me!" Is that why gays shouldn't be allowed to get married? What if your child was gay? Would you want them to experience a lifetime of being denied the same rights you enjoy?
Honestly, what's everyone so afraid of?
Addendum: My friend Henry just posted a comment that reminded me of a key point I meant to make: I'm not talking about marriage in the religious sense. If churches want to ban gay marriages on religious grounds, that's another disucssion altogether. I'm talking about marriage as the execution of a legal contract. Not that there's not love involved, but I fervently disagree with employees at City Hall refusing anyone a marriage license based on sexual orientation. Thanks for jogging my memory, Henry!