Sunday, September 16, 2007

Discuss ...

Why is it the bigger the elephant in the room, the harder it is for anyone to address it?

Updated to add this picture, because Ethan pointed it out, and it's too damn cute, even to a non-cat person like myself.

9 Comments:

Anonymous Ethan said...

I guess I'd need to know which particular elephant isn't being addressed. ;-)

Just in general, I'm sure studies have been done about this, but it's something to the effect of not wanting to be first to "break the ice" and make mention. "I'm not saying anything if they're not."

Having just come from a similar (I think?) scene, our collective feeling was that it wasn't up to us to be the icebreakers. It wasn't a matter of life or death, just someone thinking that nobody knows their would-be secret, which actually we all do. But we decided that we won't confront that person unless that person wants to bring it up for discussion.

12:54 PM  
Blogger Mercurie said...

I think people just have a tendency to avoid those topics which are most important, and therefore most potentially most painful, to them. I have to admit that I have a female friend about whom I have always had strong feelings. And I suspect those feelings are mutual. But we have never brought it up. Of course, the fact that she is married doesn't help....

4:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't want to talk about it.

5:56 PM  
Blogger J. Marquis said...

I would say a lot of times it's because stating an opinion on that particular subject will cause people to put you in a particular slot. For example, you might like pretty much everything about me but if you disagree with my opinion on abortion that could cancel out all the good feelings.

6:38 PM  
Anonymous cannon said...

So how is iPod-guy, anyway?

9:05 PM  
Blogger Beth said...

Well, cannon, I think iPod-guy is nowhere.

I called him (as i said I would) and never heard back from him.

Which sets up the Sex and the City episode in which the girls all talk about the potential of a guy and Berger says, "He's just not that into you."

I left a message for him when I called. He might not have gotten the message. Or he might have gotten the message, but decided against calling back. Either way, it seems weird for me to call him again.

And he doesn't like Chicago. I can't date a guy who doesn't like Chicago. It'd even be kinda hard to be friends with a guy who doesn't like Chicago.

10:09 PM  
Anonymous Ethan said...

Did cannon solve the riddle that is this post?

10:52 PM  
Blogger Beth said...

Nope.

10:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well even if he doesnt like Chicago, isn't it a good thing you both live in Indiana?

10:17 AM  

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